Little things

It is rightly said that we do not grow up when we speak big things instead we are known to be grownups when we understand little things in life.  I always noticed people generally ignoring very basic things in life which later makes their problems more worse than easy. Relations in life are maintained well when people do not underestimate the little things in life. The issues like depression, anger, fear, feeling of loneliness, etc. arise when people cease to look into minor things like inspiration, appreciation, love, care, humbleness, etc.

The problem that dwells in the metros is that people complain of their partner spending less time with them. Well, as we see, the person keeps himself busy with the office schedule and finds little time for himself. Most people complain about their busy schedule. This complain generally arises due to a subconscious feeling to prove themselves important and more busier than others, a feeling that they work more. Slowly we get into habit complaining about things. The people forget about how to respect the feelings of their mates. This is the main problem that the people in Indian subcontinent are facing these days.

Respect about other human beings is very necessary when it comes to live in a society. We should take a note that everybody is important and loves to be treated as that. These little things matter a lot in life. Take care of your behavior and keep your brain cool.

To all my fellow readers

Hello people,,

Thanks for supporting my thoughts by reading my blog here. My friends keep pressing on me to write something about computers and internet, the subject I am good at. But guys, you know as my exams are going on I am continuously immersed into by syllabus books. I keep writing for a change. I feel better when I share my thoughts with you people. This gives a feeling that I am not left alone here, away from home, just studying in my lonely room. My best friend thinks that I have gone crazy these days, started to think weird things about the stuff called life.

I love experimenting with things. It gives a feeling of life. Innovative ideas creep in. Life is full of possibilities. I even keep playing with my vocabulary words and try framing new sentences. Many may find the things I talk about here crazy, but this is the way that you feel alive.

I feel good to free my mind here. At least we have right to create our own virtual world where no one interrupts your thoughts. Sometimes, smoking up the things here helps me get empty and feel relieved. You know how it is.

Keep up me,, read my blog regularly so that you won’t miss anything special in your life. Live your life with me. Your comments would help me going.

Happy reading.

Don’t worry be happy

When it comes to stress, illness and wellness, it is important to remember that what goes on in your mind is reflected in your body.
People who continually worry and get stressed about their problems tend to develop tense muscles, become tired easily or get headaches. When their mind is stressed, their body becomes stressed too.
Dwelling on your mistakes and over-analyzing what could go wrong or what you could have done differently only drains your energy and distracts you from what you have to do.
Worrying only uses up energy and doesn’t really help your situation. Like acid, worry will just eat you away if you let it into your life each day.
There are endless things you can worry about…service, safety, health, future, etc.
But let’s face it:

•     Worry doesn’t change the situation
•     Worry won’t help time move any quicker
•     Worry won’t help you with your service
•     Worry just doesn’t help in any way…

So don’t do it!

Echo effect or Mirror effect

What kind of friends do you have? What kind of employees? What kind of colleagues? So many times in life we get from others EXACTLY WHAT WE EXPECT!
In short the way we see people affects the way we treat them and the way we treat them affects the way they perform. This is called Pygmalion Effect (sometimes called the “echo effect” or the “mirror effect”).
Expectations can influence behavior: therefore, a manager may get better staff performance if he expects better performance. What we see reflected in many objects, situations, or persons are what we put there with our own expectations. We create images of how things should be, and if these images are believed, they become self fulfilling prophecies.
The feelings and tones which surround us can be changed if we work to change them by sending out the kind of signal we want reflected or echoed. We all have an audience of individuals and colleagues whose day, including their moods, feelings, and dispositions, will be influenced by the way we start it.
The Pygmalion Effect has met the test of scientific analysis.
       •    A study showed that experiments could raise the IQ scores of children, especially on verbal and information sub-tests, merely by expecting them to do well.
       •    A study showed that worker performance increased markedly when the supervisor of these workers was told that his group showed a special potential for their particular job.

Annoyed with someone?

Many a times we find an excuse for our failure, we blame the society, unfair treatment, injustice etc. Resentment or bitterness is an attempt to make our own failure palatable. However, resentment is worst than a disease. It is a deadly poison which makes happiness impossible and drains tremendous amount of energy.
Resentment is also a “way” of making us feel important. Many people get a perverse satisfaction from the feeling “wronged.”
It is an illusion whereby a person thinks, if he can feel resentful / bitter enough, and thereby “prove” the injustice, some magical process will undo the event of circumstances which caused resentment. Resentment is a mental resistance to or non-acceptance of something which has already happened.
Resentment is an emotional re-fighting of some event in the past. You cannot win, because you are attempting to do the impossible – change the past.
Resentment, even when based upon real injustice and wrongs, is not the way to win. It soon becomes an emotional habit. Habitually feeling that you are a victim of injustice, you picture yourself as a victimized person.
Habitual resentment invariably leads to self-pity, which is worst possible emotional habit anyone can develop. A person begins to picture himself as a victim and results in inferior self-image.
As long as you harbor resentment / hatred, it is literally impossible for you to picture yourself as a self-reliant and determined person. Your resentment is not caused by other persons, events or circumstances. It is caused by your own emotional response – your own reaction. You can control it if you firmly convince yourself that resentment and self-pity are not ways of happiness and success, but ways to defeat and unhappiness.

Missing presence of an elder sister.

Do you have an elder sister? I don’t. Its all like when you have something you don’t value it unless you loose it. I miss having an elder sister. Lots of things that I wanted to do. The reactions and expressions when I would tease her, freak her out, scare her,,,, wow,, I just feel good. At this moment I am just thinking of having my own elder sister and taking all the privileges that I could. Making her smile with my cutest expressions, wiping her tears off, listening to her long chats, going on a walk with her, all seems to be a dream without an elder sister.

Being eldest sibble in my family I always had a responsible role. No kidding!! My mom always prompted from her kitchen “Ashish, you should put forward a lesson for your siblings.” There is no one who would hide me behind her and protect me from my mamma’s cane. :) There are lots of things I miss to do. Receiving gifts, that playful scolding, eaves dropping on her fiance’s phone, hahaha… thats bad I know, but you can always have fun with your own sister, right? Moreover when she is incharge of my security and is specially assigned a task to look after me. I would feel like a king. No Tensions man.

Need money for a picnic? Ask her. This would bypass all the formal routines through mom and dad. No questions! And I could get a clean check. Great. Lots of advantages of having an elder sister.

My mamma did a big mistake. I would always miss a presence of an elder sister in my life.