What does it take to keep going?

Last few days I have been thinking that why do wise men say that, “behind every successful man there is a woman”. Are women really that powerful? Well, I happened to read autobiographies of some great men of their time. Fortunately I also read a book related to the most common title among strugglers; very popularly known as steps to success, tips for success, 101 steps, what does it take to be successful, make more money, etc. etc. etc. What is all that is common here? Some virtues that these books reveal, fall in the category of the gentlemen people. Punctuality, truth, desire, courage, dreams,…. and long goes the list.

The question that arises is that, if these people were really so called gentlemen then why do they owe their success to their wives or friends or their daughters? Some might argue that they did this because they were gentlemen, but the point is they really carved for one thing called “ATTENTION”. This is a raw thing and every individual on this planet needs. The synonyms have a long list including words like appreciation, recognition, love, regard, consideration, etc. People live and die without being able to do something worthy of praise in their life only because they didn’t get proper nourishment in their own home. With nourishment I mean the proper recognition or attention they actually needed to carry on with their experiments.

Every mind is born with ability to think and innovate. And not all are Newton or Einstein, people are vulnerable and need caring. Think of someone scolding you in middle of some important job. Are you able to carry on with it any longer? Most of you would answer non affirmative. What made the great men great was the care and attention that fuelled them to carry on with what they were doing. God blessed women with an ability to care. I know some great men personally who admit that what they are today is because of their female friend or their girlfriend or their wife. Talking about women here doesn’t mean that I have ruled men out of this scenario. But to mention most of the people those who support the torch bearers are dumb enough not to be able to understand what their fellow was actually trying to do but they are genuinely happy for him.

About 90% of the people to whom I met and know admit that whatever jobs they are doing or kind of life they are living is just for a sake of someone they love to see smile. They think that the people they care for are happy with what they are doing. Let me put a note here that I am not talking about the psychos and mentally disturbed persons who are considered as antisocial elements. If we talk about all other normal human beings, you just take out their inspirational source out of their life and there they crumble down as a tower of cards. What does it take to live a life? Two times meal, a room with TV and freedom to roam anywhere. But as we see this is not all. People spend their lives collecting all the material things for their beloved ones thinking they would appreciate their efforts and return them smiles.

Men are happy, see someone smile. This only feeling makes them do the things in favor of that smile. The lookout only changes. Some people see this smile in their wife, some in their friend, some in their community, some feel good when they help some in trouble. Its all that makes them happy.

Remember friends, it takes only a smile. Learn to appreciate genuinely and it will definitely come back to you in good ways.