Happiness

These days I realized that being happy has nothing to do with what happens around us. May sound strange but its true. Happiness is a virtue that we all need to find within us. From last two three days I am having a nice feeling, a happy feeling. This is really odd for me because there is no reason for me to be happy. Still I feel calm, free, relaxed.

Despite the tensions, twitches and sleepless nights that I spend working, I am happy. Happy for no reasons. This is a feeling that I would always love to have. Small actions like smiling back to people, waiving at any friendly appearance, saying hello to friends… maybe even strangers. Trust me, this helps. We don’t need any reasons to be happy. There is no need to wait for happy situations to occur. We don’t need to delay the joy. Its right here, right within us. Find it.

Live the life as it is meant to be. Life is not meant to be lived in stress and worries and reflecting them on the people that you meet. Life is about sharing, its about trying to bring a smile to the faces. And if you try you will know that smile has a great inductive power.

Its your life, don’t just pass through it … LIVE IT.

Emotional twitches

Why do people opt to be away even if they can be close? Happened twice to me in this small life span. May be something better is in store for me or just that those people found me disagreeable over some matters of life. Something somewhere is missing… maybe a small link which I have never understood. I would like someone to point that out to me.
Another bad aspect of such behavior is that we start underestimating our self over some matters of life. Some introverts like me think it better to leave the relations for the socially active people and move to the dark corners of technology or some research work. Well, research is good but not at the cost of one’s social life. Autism is always an excuse for such causes. I don’t want to go that way.
Trying experimentation with oneself can help to some extent. Lets see to what extent can this help me. Hope that this ends soon.

Avoid Waterproofing

Just as we can weatherproof a home by looking for cracks, leaks, and imperfections, we can also weatherproof our relationships, even our lives, by doing the very same thing. Essentially, weatherproofing means that you are on the careful lookout for what needs to be fixed or repaired. It’s finding the cracks and flaws, and either trying to fix them, or at least point them out to others. This tendency encourages you to think about what’s wrong with everything and everyone --- what you don’t like.
You begin to notice little faults about your colleague (or friend, whoever), that you feel could be improved upon. You bring it to their attention. You might say, “You know, you sure have a tendency to be late.” Or, “I’ve noticed you don’t read very much.” The point is, you’ve begun what inevitably turns into a way of life --- looking for and thinking about what you don’t like about someone, or something that isn’t quite right.
Obviously, an occasional comment, constructive criticism, or helpful guidance isn’t cause for alarm. Occasional harmless comments have a tendency to become a way of looking at life.
When you are weatherproofing another human being, it says nothing about them --- but it does define you as someone who needs to be critical.
Whether you have a tendency to weatherproof your relationships, certain aspects of your life, or both, what you need to do is write off weatherproofing as a bad idea. As the habit creeps into your thinking, catch yourself and seal your lips. You will be happier person and feel much better.
You may do weatherproofing, fault finding and corrections, if it is your assigned duty. Otherwise, avoid it.

Be Willing to learn

Many of us are reluctant to learn from the people closest to us—our authorities, colleagues, staff and friends. Rather than being open to learning, we close ourselves off out of embarrassment, fear, stubbornness, or pride. It's almost as if we say to ourselves, "I have already learned all that I can [or want to learn] from this person; there is nothing else I can [or need to] learn."

It's sad, because often the people closest to us know us the best. They are sometimes able to see ways in which we are acting in a self-defeating manner and can offer very simple solutions. If we are too proud or stubborn to learn, we lose out on some wonderful, simple ways to improve our lives.

Remain open to the suggestions of your authorities and other people. Ask seniors and authorities, "What are some of my blind spots?" By this simple process you end up getting some good advice. It's such a simple shortcut for growth, yet almost no one uses it. All it takes is a little courage and humility, and the ability to let go of your ego. This is especially true if you are in the habit of ignoring suggestions, taking them as criticism.

Pick something that you feel the person whom you are asking is qualified to answer. Sometimes the advice we get usually prevents us from having to learn something the hard way.